How to Get Rid of One of Your Annoying Friends


Being Assertive, Not Furtive

  1. Be clear rather than pretending you like the pushiness or over-the-top behavior.By saying nothing, you will get more of the same, so you'll end up suffering in silence. Instead, draw a line and make it clear you aren't going to partake in things that annoy you, behave in a way you find immature or listen to stories that bug you, etc.
  2. When the annoying friend invites you to do something with them, and you're not interested, say no.For example, say that your friend invites you over for "coffee". Simply say "no thank you" and don't offer an explanation. If pushed, just say that you don't want to; sorry.
  3. End the chats and the calls when you have had enough.What is holding you there when you've long wanted to stop talking? It's your "nice person" persona, not wanting to hurt the other person. The trouble is, you are hurting yourself by continuing to talk or chat inanely when you could be doing something else you want to do. When they call, say you must hang up now because you're busy. If they ask "doing what?" Say, "just busy" and "Bye". There isnoneed for explanation; this isn't an inquisition.
  4. If you are out together and need to leave, tell the annoying friend you've got to leave.It's that simple.
    • Tell the friend you are in a hurry to get somewhere. If they offer to tag along say, "No, Thank you. It must be done alone because it is personal (no questions asked). Sorry."
  5. Be friendly but firm when the friend feels left out.If this person asks you outright whether or not you still want to be friends, say "I aim to be friendly with everybody, including you. However, that's different from my network of close friends." Again, do not go into any more details.
  6. Above all, keep calm and stay polite.They may be annoying; that does not mean that you have the right to be nasty and it will reflect very badly on you if you are.
    • Being assertive is about letting people know where you stand. They may not like it but it's much harder to complain that someone knows what they want and speaks it clearly than to call someone a gossip, a meanie or even a bully as a result of their actions.

Pushing Away

The following things are not assertive; indeed some are quite passive aggressive and some are rather mean-spirited actions. If you're not willing to stand up for yourself and speak clearly, you could try some of these. Just beware the bad feelings likely to ensue.

  1. Find out things your annoying friend dislikes.Pretend you are really interested in them, and keep on talking about them to them until they get really annoyed.
  2. Sit with other friends at lunch.Keeping your distance from the annoying friend may help them get the hint that you don't want to hang out.
  3. Give another friend a code word or a pre-arranged signal which means "Lets leave!" Use this signal when you need to ditch someone in a social setting.
    • Text your friend or cough loudly. Don't look unnatural.
    • Get another good friend to call you explaining an emergency. Don't let your emergency seem too serious or the person you're ditching may get worried.
  4. Demonstrate your lack of interest in continuing the friendship by acting in an unresponsive "zombie-like" manner.A few easy ways to do this may be not laughing at their jokes, pretending that you weren't listening to their stories or questions or keeping a cold, expressionless demeanor.
    • When they talk to you, be busy with other things and pretend you're not listening. Also, you can try interrupting them and talking about one of the things they don't like.
  5. Hang out with someone that you like often (so you don't have another annoying person) thattheycan't stand.
  6. Confuse or toy with the annoying person.Talk in a different language, sing, or if they are making unwanted phone calls, either block them or get someone else to answer it.

Community Q&A

  • Question
    This annoying friend asked me my bra size. I didn't want to answer. What can I do when someone asks me something like that?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Just say, "I don't feel comfortable answering that, and I'd rather you didn't ask me such personal questions in the future."
  • Question
    My annoying friend invited herself to a movie night I planned with two close friends. How do I say no?
    Community Answer
    Just tell him/her that they weren't invited. Otherwise, tell them it was canceled and just go with your other friends.
  • Question
    I have a friend and she is always saying I need to be with her and not with my other friends. What should I do?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    She's jealous and she wants you all to herself, but that doesn't mean you have to agree to this. You should have other friends, and you should be able to spend time with them. Tell her you need some space and she needs to stop trying to make you feel guilty about seeing your other friends. If she continues to say these things to you, take a break from the friendship, or end it altogether.
  • Question
    How can I get rid of an annoying friend that considers me her best friend?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Don't make it a point to see them. When she asks to hang out, say you're busy. Eventually she'll get the point and will stop trying to contact you because you're busy.
  • Question
    My best friend is constantly bragging about her clothes, and every time I'm around her I feel ugly and stupid. I've tried talking to her about it but she says, "Can we change the subject?!"
    Community Answer
    If you feel that way around her, don't talk to her. No one should make you feel that way, certainly not a friend.
  • Question
    What if I already gave the person a warning and many hints and they still continue? I don't to tell the teachers.
    Jennifer B.
    Community Answer
    Tell this person in a firm but polite way that you don't want to be friends with them. If you don't want to tell them outright, keep a cold distance.
  • Question
    What if it's a friend who constantly annoys me and thinks of me as a best friend and always talks about inappropriate things that I don't feel comfortable listening to?
    Lila K.
    Community Answer
    Just tell them! If you're uncomfortable, call them out on how you don't feel comfortable with the conversation. If they keep talking about it, walk away and tell a teacher/counselor.
  • Question
    What if you been friends with that person for many years and you left her but her mom puts us back together?
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    There are not a lot of ways to avoid that, besides always seeming busy. It's probably best to subtly hint that you aren't interested in being friends with that person anymore, their mother will hopefully get the hint and stop trying. Ask your mom to have a chat to the other person's mom, if this isn't difficult. Otherwise, just be unavailable as much as possible.
  • Question
    Whenever anyone in my group of friends posts a picture of us hanging out, this girl who considers herself one of our friends comments that we forgot to invite her and is annoyed, but she is not our friend. What should I do?
    Lila K.
    Community Answer
    This happens a lot to everybody! Don't answer her online though, talk to her in person. Tell you're sorry she wasn't invited but also ask her to not comment things like that on your photos. If she keeps carrying on saying things like "I'm never invited" or "why do you spend so much time with other people?" Tell her that you have friends other than her and you like to spend time with them too. Block her online if it gets worse. If she asks why, you have the right to just walk away and not answer her.
  • Question
    I am worried that if my annoying friend feels left out, he will tell teacher that we don't want to be his friend.
    wikiHow Contributor
    Community Answer
    Your annoying friend can tell the teacher but cannot force anything. The teacher will listen but may not even follow up with you and even if the teacher does, can only ask you if you've done anything to upset this person. Just explain your side of things and that you don't really want to be friends with this person anymore or that you feel you both need a "break". You can also talk to your school's guidance counselor for additional support.
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  • Try not to make it super obvious that you are trying to get rid of them. It gets you into all kinds of problems like confrontations.
  • Try not to be too mean or they may spread rumors about you or tell a teacher.
  • And if they follow you no matter what you do...try this when they're doing something like cleaning up say softly your leaving somewhere so when they say you ditched them you have an excuse
  • Don't spread rumors about them or do anything obviously mean or else you may get a bad reputation.
  • Don't answer their phone calls. Eventually, they'll either give up or confront you. Be prepared for both reactions.
  • If the annoying friend still wants to be friends with you and you don't simply say "go away", they will get the hint that they're getting really annoying and might leave you alone. Try not to send them completely off for good because you might find that they would be a good help with something. Don't hurt their feelings; this might make them lose self confidence, you might feel horrible afterwards and they might turn other people against you.
  • Don't act bratty or snotty because your "friend" might spread a bad rumor about you.
  • "_______, I'm sorry but you know...Sometimes the things you do can get a little irritating. II don't think we can be friends much longer. We are always constantly repelling each other. You are cool and all but I don't think we are compatible. Thanks for the friendship we had, you are a one of a kind person. Keep looking and you'll find someone awaiting your kindness."
  • Treat people how you would like to be treated. Don't play games with people's emotions. Find a way to say you don't feel the friendship is working.
  • Just tell them the truth. Honesty is the best policy. If you lie and they find out and it will probably make things worse.
  • The "annoying friend" may not want to break the friendship with you right away. Breaking up slowly might help you not hurt their feelings and they might not care after you're completely done with them.
  • Start spending time with other people and stop including her in little things. She will then feel unwanted and will start hanging out with other people too.
  • Just tell them after a while.
  • If the annoying person is kind to you, be kind to them. Here is the words you use if you want to ditch them straight on:
  • Acting snobby might put them off.
  • Just make sure they aren't going through actual emotional things such as family matters, (parents don't acknowledge them, abusive siblings, etc.) other social matters, (friend they are stressed over, bullied, etc.) or maybe, just maybe, all of the above. Then just kinda put off ignoring them or being rude.
  • Talk loud and obnoxiously.
  • Brag a lot.
  • Try to hang out with other people, but if you both have many mutual friends, that may be challenging. Try to ignore them, but don't be rude while doing it.
  • Do it yourself. Having another friend do your "dirty work" for you will only make things worse.


  • Also be aware that this behavior is kind of like fighting fire with fire and may not always work out well in the end.
  • You always have to end the friendship with an annoying friend (at least eventually). You need to remember that annoying people have mental health problems that they're unaware of such as narcissistic personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder and if they are repeatedly abusive (especially to the point of being threatening and especially if they get any pleasure from abusing you) they have sadistic personality disorder. Also remember that there is a difference between an immature person and an annoying person as the annoying person is both immature and abusive.
  • Make sure you don't do this around the friends you like or they might get annoyed at you.
  • It's very important that you limit your hatred towards this person and don't go too over the top. If you keep acting rude towards them, they might spread the word or other people might catch on if they see you arguing in public. This might give you the reputation of a mean jerk.

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